trust the process

The older I get the more I realize how much I built my life around having a sense of control. And I see more and more how control is really an illusion. The sense of having control provides me a feeling of power, a sense of safety, protection, but it's really quite limited.

I notice my desire to control most frequently with the cats. I can do everything in the world to protect them and yet they will still get sick and have problems. Maybe my attempts at control can provide some reduction in risk, but as much as I might like, I can't eliminate the risk.

The outdoor cats are just that, outdoor cats. Taking care of them quickly reveals the limits of my ability to keep them safe. Getting emotionally attached to feral cats is a setup for emotional pain, I can only do what I can do. Cats will be cats. Of course Oliver and Pierre are not really feral anymore and the ideal thing would be to bring them inside, but Oliver's territorial urine marking makes that unrealistic. Thankfully, they are both very clever and stick close to home, but that doesn't stop me from worrying! I worry and worry about those boys, especially when Oliver stays out all night or I'm traveling away from home.

A huge theme in all areas of my life over the past few years has been "trust the process". Willingness to let go of what I can't control and even some of what I can and lean deep into the fear - and trust. Trust Oliver. Trust my ability to grieve and get through an undesired outcome. Trust my community. Trust that joy will re-emerge after the tide of pain subsides. Trust my gifts and abilities. Trust God's love is enough to get me through whatever comes. It's been scary, very scary in fact, and it has been more rewarding, freeing, and life-giving than I ever could have imagined. Leaving behind the safe and familiar cage of fear and stepping out into the spontaneous, creative, freeing aspects of life, which at times still feels like stepping toward crazy. Over time I've noticed my emotional resilience building. I've noticed my courage and self-confidence growing. And I've noticed that I'm getting invited into bigger and bigger challenges.

One such really big challenge is on the horizon, one that has many unknowns, many factors that are out of reach of my ability to control. The invitation has been offered and I've accepted. This particular challenge will be very disruptive to our lives and especially the cats.

I'm scared.

And I'm in - all in...

(to be continued)

Monday Willow

Another week, another cute Willow picture.

May Peace find you this week.

boys of summer

These boys know how to make my heart glow.

Oliver loves!!

Pierre loves!!!

 Just a matter of time before Pierre is rolling over for tummy rubs.

Yes, Pierre is as soft as he appears!

I was recently in Tennessee again for work. Very beautiful there.

Thursday night sunset

Friday morning sunrise

Marvelous Marvs

Time passes so quickly. It's hard to believe Marvin's two year gotcha-day is fast approaching. There were so many times with him where I didn't think he would live, but now he seems stable and going strong! He's also got some surprises tucked away in his furs.

All year round, even on the hot days of July, Marvin prefers to sprawl on his heating pad with no cushion. The heat must feel good on his old bones.

And then the other day he did something that completely shocked me! He was actually using the super soft, squishy bed! 

Oh Marvin, you are a joy and delight all tucked into a tiny chocolate kitty package. What a lovely gift you are. Remember what Marvin looked like before he was trapped? So glad he's inside and loved now, the way all kitties are meant to be.

In other news, I recently had the joy of visiting my happy place - Isle Royale National Park, in Michigan. My favorite place on the planet.

My heart is restored now.

monday

Wake me when it's Friday!

signature Theo

 THEO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

sharing dinner

Every day's taco Tuesday for Willow