Saturday, March 5, 2016

lazy caturday

It's good to be home!

February was quite the month. Lots of travel. Lots of going ons. Grateful for the month that it was and even more grateful to be home now.

I'll catch you up on my happenings by starting with the now. Today - this moment, Oliver is taking a snooze on the couch with Buddy about one cat-length apart. After years in the making, Oliver has officially met the indoor cats face to face.

I started by having all the indoor cats locked on the front porch while Oliver got to play inside. Remember, Oliver has been dying to become an inside kitty for years, but his chronic urine marking prevents unsupervised time.

When Oliver settled in on the couch, I decided to let the inside kitties back inside with Oliver. I thought it was time they meet nose to nose. Theo was the first who popped up on the couch and slowly approached Oliver - they sniffed each others noses and Theo slowly backed away! No hissing, no growling, nothing but sniffing! I was so proud of my Oliver! 

Oliver is a super dominate cat outside in his yard. He will violently take down any intruder cats that come anywhere near his space. But inside, he seems to know he's a guest here and has not done anything to challenge the indoor cats. 

Buddy was the next to check out Oliver. He sniffed and settled in a cat-length away. Then he grumped and attacked Oliver with his flying-paw of doom. Oliver didn't retaliate, he just hissed and backed away. Oliver could easily dominate any of the indoor cats but he's choosing to remain submissive. I'm super impressed with him - he's very smart kitty - he knows if he wants to be an inside kitty he can't do it by force.

Sweet Willow just hopped up in my lap to get some loves. She doesn't seem phased in the least by Oliver being right next too her. And likewise, Oliver doesn't seem to mind Willow's presence either.

I've been waiting for this moment for years! When Oliver could come inside and be part of the harmonious inside kitty world!! Today we took a major step in that direction! Yah!!

I traveled many places over the past few weeks. One place I went was back to Onsite (in middle of nowhere Tennessee), a place of incredible healing. If you know of anyone who's stuck in survival mode and can't seem to figure out how to get to thriving, Onsite might be worth checking out. 

The work related training I did there was life changing, in line with the rest of my Onsite experiences. I'm incredibly grateful they are there doing what they do.

One of the pieces of personal work I got to attend to was working through the trauma of the death of my first dog, Lassie, back in childhood. It was to be an event that forever changed my world, in a not so good way. I'm grateful for getting to finally resolve that trauma, and in doing so, has changed my relationship with death - and grieving.

On the way home from Tennessee, I stopped in Ohio to visit Sarah's grave. I wanted to make intentional space for more grieving. I brought her a forever rose and a little cat figurine (three kittens playing) to mark the delightful gifts she gave me. Visiting was really hard but also really, really good.

My heart is full of love, gratitude, and joy. Life is good! It's good to be home!


  1. Wow, Oliver!!!! And everyone else!!!! I'm thrilled the intros have gone so well. Yay for Oliver!

    Your journey of healing sounds pretty amazing. Lots of hugs and Light to you as you continue on your Path. Peace.

  2. Bravo Oliver!!! We're glad to see you are hope safe and sound and we're glad you got to visit Sarah's resting place.

  3. I was and am thankful to see Oliver inside and not any fussing going on. One of the heartbreaking things I recall in your blog was precious Oliver outside, looking in at the cats inside, longing. I know it hurt you on his behalf too...if only only only he would stop that behavior. Seeing them today, all inside and Oliver behaving was like a sigh of relief here.

    How I wish you could have joined me and Simba's mom and dad yesterday.

    As to your journey, literally, God speed. The Holy Spirit is with you.

  4. I am happy to see Oliver is doing well inside. Onsite sounds like an amazing place. That was a wonderful gift to bring to Sarah's grave, I am sure she is watching over you and her family.

  5. That is such great news about Oliver and the inside kitties!
    Grief is a tricky road to maneuver. I think it always weaves in and out of our lives and consciousness.

  6. I am way behind--Caturday is over already, and I do not know where it went! Yes I do--yesterday was "unplug" yourself day, and I was pretty unplugged! Good that Oliver is integrating. Nice to see you are back.


  7. Yay for Oliver! Onsite looks like a wonderful place.

  8. We's so glad things are goin' so well with Oliver. We sure hope it continues along these lines and everypawdy gets along.

    Luv ya'

    Dezi and Lexi

  9. I wonder if being face to face with the indoor kitties will help with the urine marking

  10. Hooray for Oliver, hooray for all the cats for having a peaceful visit!


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