I notice my desire to control most frequently with the cats. I can do everything in the world to protect them and yet they will still get sick and have problems. Maybe my attempts at control can provide some reduction in risk, but as much as I might like, I can't eliminate the risk.
The outdoor cats are just that, outdoor cats. Taking care of them quickly reveals the limits of my ability to keep them safe. Getting emotionally attached to feral cats is a setup for emotional pain, I can only do what I can do. Cats will be cats. Of course Oliver and Pierre are not really feral anymore and the ideal thing would be to bring them inside, but Oliver's territorial urine marking makes that unrealistic. Thankfully, they are both very clever and stick close to home, but that doesn't stop me from worrying! I worry and worry about those boys, especially when Oliver stays out all night or I'm traveling away from home.
A huge theme in all areas of my life over the past few years has been "trust the process". Willingness to let go of what I can't control and even some of what I can and lean deep into the fear - and trust. Trust Oliver. Trust my ability to grieve and get through an undesired outcome. Trust my community. Trust that joy will re-emerge after the tide of pain subsides. Trust my gifts and abilities. Trust God's love is enough to get me through whatever comes. It's been scary, very scary in fact, and it has been more rewarding, freeing, and life-giving than I ever could have imagined. Leaving behind the safe and familiar cage of fear and stepping out into the spontaneous, creative, freeing aspects of life, which at times still feels like stepping toward crazy. Over time I've noticed my emotional resilience building. I've noticed my courage and self-confidence growing. And I've noticed that I'm getting invited into bigger and bigger challenges.
And I'm in - all in...
(to be continued)
Wow! Now you've got my curiosity peaked! The worry over my friendly ferals HAS driven me to some extremes, but it's like trying to hold water in one's hand. Letting The Almighty's will be done is never harder than with them.ReplyDelete
You have my curiosity peaked too -- would this be a move, perhaps?ReplyDelete
I read a quote recently which sums things up nicely, regardless of one's beliefs: "Do your best with what's in front of you and leave the rest to the powers above you."
And know that as a community, we will support you as well.ReplyDelete
Wow, great thoughts. It's hard to trust the process but I'm trying also. You encourage me! Hugs.ReplyDelete
guyz....best fishez two dad....change iz never eazee... on any one ~~ ♥♥♥ReplyDelete
I try to control everything with my cats too and get very upset when they get sick anyway. I wish you could bring the no longer ferals inside, but I understand the urine marking makes it impossible, I can see why you would always worry about them though.ReplyDelete
You are leaving Oliver and Pierre behind?ReplyDelete